A weekly event

[wasabi]

I've always been fascinated by two concepts that I have yet to apply, but wanted feedback on.

The first, is establishing a place as your personal local hangout. Like, getting to know the bar staff at a particular venue, or frequenting a nice restaurant, basically making some place your own. That way, you're always social proofed.

The second is establishing something like a weekly happy hour with friends. Essentially the point would be to either host it myself, or to get a crew of maybe three or four guys, and each week just invite people that I meet that week together for a sort of wine-and-cheese or chill evening at someone's place or at a restaurant o some other type of venue. Another upside would be to have something that I would always be able to invite girls that I meet that week to. The overall point of this would be to increase my social proof by establishing myself as someone who is able to entertain guests, throw a kickback, and increasing my social VALUE.

Does anyone have pointers that would help me in these two areas? Would anyone be interested in experimenting with this with me?

[Hex]

I'm definitely interested bro. This is exactly the type of thing I want to be doing. The next time we meet up, let's discuss and see how we can get this show on the road.

[HOPPY]

Here my two sense...

I have some favorate places... All the staff knows me.... They tell other venues about me, and wahla... I have promoters and mangager.... bounces... you name ramdomly coming up to me introducing them selfs, and extend an invite to their bar or club.... This happens to me a lot... more so after scouting places for the bootcamp i took. So I have the social proof for venue.. just ask me... I know plent of other guys here do too...

About meetings, social parties and happy hour...

I think we should have a once a month lounge meeting here in houston.... to meet new members, social like and share material and ideas. Second i think we need to have a least one party hosted by us, envite everyone we know, chicks, friends... family what ever( 21 and up).... Now Jax, was talking about a have a happy hour somewhere.... great idea....

Thea idea is to be the group of people that everyone follows....

I going to get with some of the guys, and put something together.... List some ideas...

[wasabi]

Yes yes and yes.

Finally, people who understand.

[The Gray Ghost]

Two cents...

First, happy hours are a great networking tool as most of us know that have been employed by many people in Corp America for years because it is a powerful tool. HOWEVER, it is the people that make or break a good one. The people that usually put these on are selective, like any great host, about the guests they invite. The masterful party thrower hand picks guests that will behave themselves and offer interest to the over all scene. I once had an acquaintance that was truly a master at throwing parties. His birthday bash every year was 300+ people, invitation only, you had to sign a confidentiality agreement, and they were always the most amazing parties. Not because his house was so bad ass (10,000 square foot rehabed brick building), or because it was a Gatsbyesque open bar catered over the top affair, but because of the people. All of the people, with the exception here and there, were bad ass. Everyone was super friendly, interesting, and knew how to have a good time. No one, except usually the host, behaved like a jackass. And even he was not that bad - he was rich enough to be eccentric. With that being said organizing a happy hour is a really great way to expand your social network and build your social proof.

Second cent. Being social proofed by a restaurant/bar staff is second to none. I actually have a full explanation of why, but I am going to try to keep this on topic. For several years before getting into PUA Sandman and I had a strange habit of instantly befriending the entire bar staff in places we liked. We noticed a couple of things because of this. One, when you walk in and everyone comes over to say high and shake your hand/hug you/whatever everyone in the room takes notice - instant social proof and the room is open. With this open room you tend to be more conformable and as such genuinely have a good time. You begin to "Energy Peacock". Others looking to have a good time and be around people that can be a good time will be drawn into you. Part of the trick is to get to places a little before they become busy when the bar staff is done setting up and is just standing around. Don't be overly energetic in trying to befriend them just be friendly and talkative. Most people in the hospitality industry are used to people trying using them for social proof. Make a point to learn their names and use them each time you see them. Use their name when speaking to them often - don't go over board and sound like a sociaotard though. This is a simple way of developing a quick relationship with someone and gives a "I am a genuine person" feel.

Pulling a happy hour together is a great thing and would be taking the bull by the horns when it comes to building a social network. Let me know when you put something together. Would love to stop by.

[HOPPY]

well then lets start at dave n' busters wensday 7-9 this wensday... can build a great social network full of women.... do it as a group

[Skyy]

Lets do this in Austin too.

Trance threw an awesome get-together a month or so ago with people from Austin involved in the community. Lets get more of these happening.